Sex and the Pareto Principle (80/20 Rule)

In my recent video on the topic of Incels, I had male viewers ask me if I knew about the ’80/20 Rule’.

The ’80/20 Rule’ is also known as the Pareto principle, which states that roughly 80% of effects come from 20% of causes. Two examples would include: approximately 80% of land is owned by 20% of a given population, or 80% of sales come from 20% of clients.

In the case of relationships and sex, 80% of women desire to mate with the top 20% of men, inevitably leaving the remaining, bottom 80% of men in some degree of “shit-out-of-luck”.

So, this raises the question, what then qualifies a man for the top-20%?

A humble man might prefer not to categorize himself, but might also be surprised where he actually scores when presented with the data. And that dose of perspective could serve as a sudden “boost” in confidence for said man — thus improving his career, social, romantic, and sexual outcomes.

Enter the point of this video.

In September of 2017 I released a video that discussed the traits that women desire in a man. It was VERY detailed, and entirely backed by research, which is my signature approach.

If I had to choose two stand-out qualities from that video that would, arguably, place a given man among the “top 20%” of men, they would be:

1. Having resources, such as money, or the ability to acquire resources.

2. Physical attractiveness, including attention to hygiene, muscularity at the level of, say, Brad Pitt in “Troy” — which is what women rated highly in more than one study, even compared to “classic” bodybuilders like Frank Zane, complete with a “v-shaped” physique, and 12% body fat. The latter was shown in research by the Royal Society to be most-attractive to fertile women, specifically.

It is worth noting that those are areas in your life that are generally under your control to improve, if you are willing to put in the necessary time, effort and commitment, and strive for self-improvement.

I would also like to add that you should also work on your personality and demeanor as well. Something I also discussed in that video.

You should have healthy self-respect, have belief in yourself, possess core values and demonstrate conviction, speak with a rich tone of voice — project yourself, walk with confidence — keep your head up, don’t slouch, look people in the eyes when talking to them, etc.

A strong personality and demeanor are definitely the icing on the proverbial cake of overall attractiveness.

But, getting back to the first two qualities. Let’s get down to the nitty-gritty.

When it comes to income, which falls under the category of resources, to earn in the top 10% in the US, the IRS claims you’d need to be in a household pulling in at least $295,845 annually.

Granted, that’s to fit into the top 10% of earners. The top 20% would obviously set the income bar somewhat lower, and be relatively easier to attain.

But, relatively easier still doesn’t mean easy. You’re going to have to want it, plan for it, and work for it.

And as I mentioned in my “attracting women” video, women WILL take into account your ability to acquire resources — like intelligence, marketable talents, education, skills, etc.

So, even if you are not currently a top-20% earner, or not even close, possessing traits or factors that’ll give you the potential to become one is a plus!

Now, let’s move along to number two: physical attractiveness.

The formula here is simple: exercise, eat healthfully, and administer proper hygiene. Control what you can, don’t stress over what you cannot. Stress certainly isn’t helpful or healthful, as I’ve also discussed on this channel.

Do you think Jason Statham’s lack of hair or being under 6 feet tall, for instance, are compromising his social life? He still has status, money, and a Hollywood-style action physique.

And he’s been dating a model.

Like we did with income earlier, let’s get a little more specific about fitness, performance, and the physique, to help you with perspective in that area as well.

As I explained in my “Truth About Modern Men” video from this past April, only 21.7% of US adults actually achieve the BASIC requirements for exercise, according to the CDC.

And “basic” equates to at least 2 1/2-to-5 hours of moderate-intensity aerobic physical activity over the course of a week, or 1 1/4-to-2 1/2 hours of vigorous-intensity aerobic physical activity over the course of a week. And that should be combined with at least 2 sessions of moderate- or high-intensity strength training each week.

And I repeat, only 21.7% of US adults actually achieve those basic guidelines. Which means the vast majority, or 78.3% of folks, do not. Men and women.

So, if you lift at least twice-a-week and perform cardio, even just 25-minutes-a-day, 3-days-a-week of cardio… you are just about breaking into the top 20% when it comes to physical fitness.

And considering that the average untrained man can only squat 125 pounds, bench 135 pounds, and deadlift 155 pounds — if you can do any more than that, you are above-average in strength as well.

But, what qualifies a man for the top-20% in the ATHLETIC strength category? Which is a more specialized arena. Well, that really depends on your strength level in relation to your body weight.

If we take into consideration that the average weight for a male today is 195.7 pounds, and that you need to be considered at least “Advanced”, by strength standards, to fit into the top-20% of lifters, a male of today’s average weight would need to bench around 297 – 310 pounds to make the top-20% of benchers, deadlift around 444 – 462 pounds to make the top-20% of deadlifters, and squat around 388 – 405 pounds to make the top-20% of squatters.

And since I personally value the standing overhead press, and consider it to be the fourth most-important “big compound lift”, the average man would need to press around 200 – 209 pounds to enter the top-20% for that lift.

At the baseline, by just getting slightly more than the recommended physical activity requirements set forth by the government, you’re already breaking into the top-20% of men, in general, from a fitness and health perspective.

And if you consistently follow any one of my eBooks linked below in the description — you’re definitely in that category. As I prescribe 3 or more lifting days, per week, as well as scheduled cardiovascular activity.

Athletic strength standards, however, add yet another tier of physical fitness achievement to strive for, which my eBooks can also help you achieve — especially “The Upgraded Man”, which is more “Power-Building” focused.

Now, I don’t know the accuracy of the following information, as I could not locate the original source to explore in detail, but apparently Men’s Health Magazine had once published data from research that showed that only 10% of men in their twenties can squat over 250 pounds, bench over 170 pounds, and deadlift over 245 pounds.

Keep it mind, those numbers are not based on the recognized athletic strength standards I had mentioned earlier, but rather just men in their 20’s broadly-speaking.

So, even if you don’t meet the top-20% of ATHLETIC strength standards on some or all of your lifts, you should very well fall into the top-20% of strength compared to your average young man… assuming you lift regularly, intelligently, and progressively. And you push yourself.

Keep in mind, when I talk top-20%, I am comparing to men in general, not just the rarer-breed dedicated to the strength game. Which are really a sub-category of men.

So… given what I’ve discussed in this video, do you fall into the top-20% of men with regards to income, health, fitness and/or strength? Let me know in the comments. Don’t be shy. Take pride in yourself. But, don’t lie to yourself either.

Also let me know if this video has opened your eyes at all. In other words, did you discover something new about yourself with this video that you didn’t realize before? If so, that’s the power of perspective.

And even if you don’t quite match up in one or more areas, you should at least have a quantified goal to strive for in bettering yourself. And I don’t mean just bettering yourself for a woman… rather, bettering yourself for YOU first and foremost! Because from there, the rest can follow.

Let me know what you think in the comments below.


Pareto principle – Wikipedia

How Much Income Puts You in the Top 1%, 5%, 10%?

CDC – Current Physical Activity Guidelines

Weightlifting Strength Standards

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